book review "Dibs in search of self"

  virginia axline--an excerpt from her book"DIBS IN SEARCH OF SELF"(a nice book to learn about and get in touch with feelings)


"out again into the night where the dulled light obscures the decisive lines of reality and casts over the immediate world a kindly vagueness.now,it is not a matter of all black and white.it is not a matter of "this is it"because there is no glaring light of unequivocal evidence in which one sees a thing as it is and one knows the answers. The darkened sky gives growing room for softened judgments and suspended indictments, for emotional hospitality.what is,seen in such light, seems to have so many possibilities that definitiveness becomes ambiguous.
Here the benefit of a doubt can flourish and survive long enough to force considerations of the scope and limitations of human evaluation.For when horizons grow or diminish within a person the distances are not measurable by other people.Understanding grows from personal experience that enables a person to see and feel in ways so varied and so full of changeable meanings that one's self awareness is the determining factor.Here one can admit more readily that the substances of a shadowy world are projected out of our personal thoughts, attitudes ,emotions, needs.Perhaps it is easier to understand that even though we do not have the wisdom to enumerate the reasons for the behavior of another person, we can grant that every individual does have his private world of meaning, conceived out of the integrity and dignity of his personality."